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The Art of a Healthy Relationship

What is required to have a healthy relationship? Some would say it takes a lot of work. That you have to have magic. Some have master the ART of having and maintaining a healthy relationship.
Like most of us girls, we grew up watching fairy-tales with happy endings. These fairy-tales, did now prepare us for the “real” world.

I believe we must first learn to have a healthy relationship with the most important person you will ever be in a relationship with in your lifetime ~ YOU!

Do you love yourself? Do you respect yourself? Are you happy with yourself? Do you cherish yourself? Do you honor yourself?

I ask these questions because I have learned the art of a healthy relationship.
It took me some hard bumps on the road to reach it but I want to share with you some quick steps to having a healthy relationship with YOU.

So many woman search for that one person that will love them unconditionally.
When all along you've been with that person. That person is YOU. Do you love yourself is the question? Can you look into the mirror, right now and say “I LOVE YOU, _______” how does it make you feel? Do you feel it true? Or are there blocks and or limiting beliefs about the love you should have for yourself.

I was that girl searching for love from another. It wasn't until, I shifted my mindset and began to love ME, for whom I was. Not for the person others wanted me to be.

You have to feel it deep inside with all your heart's desire that WANT to shift / change your outlook on yourself.

I began by to journal daily – what I was grateful for be it for the cup of coffee I was drinking or for the tip I received at work the day before. I began to “FEEL” worthy of blessings. I began to “FEEL” special for all the wonderful things in my life. I began to accept what I could not change in others. I began to change the one person I had control over and that was ME!

Along with keeping my gratitude journal. I began to listen to POSITIVE affirmations. The reason so many people are not in healthy relationships is because they are attracting negative mates. We you are in a state of gratitude that is a positive vibration. You will attract good into your life.

I began to speak positive words into my life. And not allowing what others say about me or to me affect me. That was their choose to speak in negative and hurtful ways. I had the choice to allow it into my inner core or to let it wash off.

I made some changes that shifted the way I had a relationship with myself.

The Art of a Healthy Relationship begins with YOU. Love, respect, cherish, honor, and be happy with yourself in order to attract a healthy relationship with another.

Blessings!

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