Nanncie Santana Blog

On June 2011, I created a community Facebook page to help others code with toxic relationships.  The month of June 2019 marks 8 years that I have been managing the page that I create in 2011. When I look at the years pasted, I would have never thought this page would have reached over 8,000 followers.  My heart is filled with gratitude to help in any small way I can and hoping that my goal is to form a non-profit organization so that I may reach and help in more ways than just making my presence on Facebook. So many have shared their stories.  I share valuable resources links below Helpful Links Personal Traits in Abusive Relationships  Signs of an Abusive Personality  Read More  National Domestic Violence Hotline      1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Overcoming Verbal Abuse  was born on Jun 29, 2011 by me.  At first I kept my identity from this page because I was still living with the person that was abusive t...

I am reading the book  " Women Who Run With the Wolves" book written by Clarissa Pinkola Estes. I highly recommend it to  ALL women! I came across this sentence  A woman may try to hide from the devastation 's of her life, but the bleeding , the loss of life's energy, will continue until  she recognizes the predator for what it is and contains it.   Immediately, I was enlighten to a truth. I was that woman hiding the devastation of being abused from the world. I pretended to be happy for a very long time.  My soul was bleeding inside. My aura energy was losing life. I continued reading ( I only recommend you read 2 to 3 pages a day, allow yourself to reflect on what you've read as this is a very profound book) and this next sentence spoke to me. I am about to share something with you that only my family members know and my oldest son remember as well.  And it isn't until I have read this sentence that I realized my soul was warning me to get hel...

In the last three years, I've had to learn how to forgive myself in order to truly love myself. Life throws us curve balls.  We all have experience current life events that were traumatic.  We've done things we didn't like.  We've been treated poorly. So many things could have happened.  I will share a little about what happened to me and how I was able to take the advice I am about to share with you and change my life around. I spend a majority of my life blaming others for my unhappiness.  First mistake, I made. I had to take responsibility for my own mistakes.  I was in an abusive relationship for 15 years. I blamed God for not changing my situation. I lived feeling that God must not love me. What happened to me was I developed a mindset that if God didn't love me why should I love myself. My reasoning to this thought was the fact I was mistreated, called names, put down for so many years.....God didn't hear my prayers. It wasn't until I chan...

Today the cords have been officially cut - I am no longer attached to the abuse legally. Over the last two years, I have spiritually grown, I have forgive all the abuse I allowed myself to endure. I forgive my abuser and I forgive myself for staying in a bad relationship for so long. I went to court today, I swore in front of the judge and in front of God that I would say the truth.  My heart is free of guilt because I did just that! I sat there while the other party denied ever doing anything bad to me. I listen to the lies.  And I closed my eyes and mentally I declare God you know the truth as it happened. My Heart is FREE of Guilt I want to thank all of my family and friends that continue their prayers for me during these last two years. I want to thank everyone for their encouragement and support. It hasn't been easy being alienated from my children. I know they have been brainwashed, controlled, and manipulated against me. But I also know that their is a God ...