Nanncie Santana Blog

On June 2011, I created a community Facebook page to help others code with toxic relationships.  The month of June 2019 marks 8 years that I have been managing the page that I create in 2011. When I look at the years pasted, I would have never thought this page would have reached over 8,000 followers.  My heart is filled with gratitude to help in any small way I can and hoping that my goal is to form a non-profit organization so that I may reach and help in more ways than just making my presence on Facebook. So many have shared their stories.  I share valuable resources links below Helpful Links Personal Traits in Abusive Relationships  Signs of an Abusive Personality  Read More  National Domestic Violence Hotline      1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Overcoming Verbal Abuse  was born on Jun 29, 2011 by me.  At first I kept my identity from this page because I was still living with the person that was abusive t...

I am reading the book  " Women Who Run With the Wolves" book written by Clarissa Pinkola Estes. I highly recommend it to  ALL women! I came across this sentence  A woman may try to hide from the devastation 's of her life, but the bleeding , the loss of life's energy, will continue until  she recognizes the predator for what it is and contains it.   Immediately, I was enlighten to a truth. I was that woman hiding the devastation of being abused from the world. I pretended to be happy for a very long time.  My soul was bleeding inside. My aura energy was losing life. I continued reading ( I only recommend you read 2 to 3 pages a day, allow yourself to reflect on what you've read as this is a very profound book) and this next sentence spoke to me. I am about to share something with you that only my family members know and my oldest son remember as well.  And it isn't until I have read this sentence that I realized my soul was warning me to get hel...

What a beautiful quote. I am a mother of three children.  I know that my heart loves each of them equally.  There are days I wish I had 3 little ones again.  I am currently experiencing Parental Alienation with two of my children. I feel I am walking with a torn heart daily. Although I am going through this in my life, I won't allow it to keep me from being grateful for so many things. I am forever thankful for my kids. I love them with all my heart. I am grateful for my family. No matter what they have always been there for me. I am grateful for my friends. I am grateful for my followers, because you've shared your story with me. I will continue to coach you to live healthy and happy. There will be times you will feel down. That is part of life and being human. But I am here to tell you that if you are willing to change your mind, you will be able to change your life. You have the power!  For more information on  Parental Alienation 

As this week began, I received some news that left me shocked, heartbroken, and more determined than ever to share my story and bring awareness to things that are kept in the dark by many.                                                          My Story. I am a mother of three children (pictured above) my oldest son is now 25 years old going on 26 years old and my twins are 18 years old going on 19 years old.  For the last four years since 2012, my twins were alienated from me. They were brainwashed, controlled, and manipulated  because after 15 years in which I was being physically, emotionally, and verbally abused along with being threatened in this distributive marriage.   I lived with a man that was a narcissist and when I left everything was done in their (my ex's family) power to control the situation with...

Today the cords have been officially cut - I am no longer attached to the abuse legally. Over the last two years, I have spiritually grown, I have forgive all the abuse I allowed myself to endure. I forgive my abuser and I forgive myself for staying in a bad relationship for so long. I went to court today, I swore in front of the judge and in front of God that I would say the truth.  My heart is free of guilt because I did just that! I sat there while the other party denied ever doing anything bad to me. I listen to the lies.  And I closed my eyes and mentally I declare God you know the truth as it happened. My Heart is FREE of Guilt I want to thank all of my family and friends that continue their prayers for me during these last two years. I want to thank everyone for their encouragement and support. It hasn't been easy being alienated from my children. I know they have been brainwashed, controlled, and manipulated against me. But I also know that their is a God ...